We all want to be heard 👂🏼, we want to be acknowledged, and we want to be accepted...we want VALIDATION 💜 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
When we validate someone we recognize/accept that their feelings, thoughts, and behaviors are understandable. Validation is NOT agreeing or approving, nor is it problem solving. It is the difference of being heard and FEELING heard‼️ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
There are many ways to validate someone! Here are a few ways to go about it:
1️⃣Be present. For example: Stop 🛑 and give him your full attention, simply sit with her while she cries, or listen to the fullest extent when your child explains their day at school.
2️⃣Reflection. Summarize and reflect back 🗣what they’ve been talking about by saying something like, “Sounds like you’re disappointed in the way she behaved.” This makes us feel like we’re actually being heard! 👂🏼
3️⃣Read between the lines. Name the emotion you’re hearing, “I’m guessing you’re feeling sad about what happened between the two of you.” It’s okay if you’re wrong, they will most likely correct you...just ACCEPT it, that is validation 🙂
4️⃣Normalize what they are feeling, “Of course you’re feeling sad. Having conflict with a friend would make anyone feel sad.” This type of validation is what makes us feel human! 👥 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Most importantly, don’t forget to validate yourself! How do you validate others?? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ************************************************************Reading and/or responding to this post does not indicate that a professional or therapeutic relationship has been established.
7 1525 hours ago
It is spiritual poverty, not material lack, that lies at the core of all human suffering.
I think you should just go for it.
I think you should stop waiting for permission.
I think you don’t need to “run it by” anyone.
I think you need to believe in your own idea.
I think you should give this your all.
I think you are more than capable.
I think if you stopped waiting and started doing, you would realize deciding to start was the hardest part.
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